March 13th Blog Challenge: Do you have regret?
“Never look back unless you are planning to go that way.” – Henry David Thoreau
I could give a short answer to this question and say “no”, but I’d be lying. I think it’s human nature to regret some of the decisions we’ve made in the past. But I do believe there is a difference between regretting a decision, and having a desire to change the outcome. That is something I don’t have – a desire to change the outcome.
If someone had pulled me aside in May 2001 and told me that the man I was about to marry was going to become my ex-husband in less than four years, and we’d battle it out for several years while our innocent daughter became the victim, I would have laughed them out of the room.
Do I regret my relationship with him? Sometimes. After all, the writing was on the wall that we weren’t meant to be. We broke up and got back together several times before we got engaged.
Would I change the outcome? Well, let’s see… I am now happily married (for almost 5 years) to my soul mate and perfect counterpart. My ex-husband and I have managed to get past our bitterness and anger towards one another and can now have a civil relationship. Our daughter is happy, healthy, and doesn’t show any lingering effects of that nasty mess. I’m happy. So, no. I wouldn’t change the outcome.
I guess the only real regret I have is how I handled certain situations, not necessarily that I went through them. The walk I’ve taken in my life has molded me into the woman I am today.