The holidays have come and gone and now many of us are sitting down with a list of resolutions to keeps us going and growing over the course of the next year. Goal setting, on it’s own, is a such a wonderful thing. It helps to keep us moving forward and continuing the journey of bettering ourselves and our lives.
But the problem is the nowadays it’s easy to start goal setting in a way that is less than healthy.
Every day we’re bombarded with images of perfect homes. We scroll through social media feeds filled with perfect families. Perfect smiles. Perfect bodies. We take in blog posts about preparing the perfect meals and hosting the perfect gatherings. And if you happen to be in the online business realm, we have webinars and courses and classes telling us how to become the perfect business owner.
Oh yes. We live in a perfection fueled society and it can be so easy to get caught up in that. So easy to become entangled in a battle for perfection.
But here’s the thing that people are neglecting to acknowledge.
Perfection is not possible. We as human beings were not designed to be perfect. And while there are a million reasons why, let’s focus the big ones. Because today, I want you to make a resolution to forget perfection.
Perfectionism isn’t a positive quality.
Have you ever witnessed a job interview? Chances are you’ve been in one. There’s often a question about strengths. Typically, what the candidate views as their strengths. And so many times, so so many times, people will default to one particular statement.
“I’m a perfectionist.”
I cannot begin to tell you what flawed thinking that is. Perfectionism isn’t actually a strength. It doesn’t represent confidence or meticulous attention to detail. No. Perfectionism is, in all honesty, a sign of weakness. Insecurity.
Perfectionism is a fear of making mistakes, of doing the wrong thing. It’s a deep rooted insecurity that people will be disappointed in you or judge you for being human and making mistakes.
It’s the voice that will make you feel inadequate no matter how hard you try because perfectionism is always just out of reach.
Perfectionism will hold you back.
One of the things that perfectionism is really wonderful at is holding a person back. Because perfectionism is always just out of reach, and a perfectionist won’t move until things are perfect, it often stalls growth.
As a business owner that struggles with perfectionism, I can tell you how much it will halt any sort of growth. But it isn’t just a business owner that will be held back by this “all or nothing” attitude.
Did you realize that’s what perfectionism is at it’s root? All or nothing.
No, it’s not just the entrepreneurs that will suffer at the hands of this feeling. Anyone can fall victim to it. For an example, we’ve all attempted some form of diet in our lives. How can we not? They’re shared everywhere and the benefits of each are treated like the cure for all that ails us. So yes, it’s safe to say we’ve all probably tried some form of diet.
So you’re trying this diet and you make a mistake. You eat the wrong thing or too much of something and that’s it. The day is ruined. So you put it off till the next day. Or even the next week. Or even indefinitely.
That’s perfectionism at play, my friend. And you don’t want to dictate how you feel.
Acknowledging flaws is liberating.
As I said, you never want perfectionism to tell you how to feel. It’s generally not a fair friend and will do what it can to drive your insecurities in and keep you down.
But once you acknowledge that you can’t be perfect and that you don’t want to be perfect (because, hello, perfection is absolutely boring!), you start to feel free. Liberated.
You are free to try to things, the learn and grow. To expand your reach.
And it’s all because perfectionism won’t be there constantly telling you that you’re not enough. That you can’t do it. That people will laugh and judge you.
And, my dear friend, I want that for you.
So if you make no other resolutions this year, take this into consideration. Say goodbye to perfection and hello to authenticity. Say hello to growing and learning and making mistakes and laughing as you go.
That’s how you reach your own version of perfect. By embracing the you that you are and loving every bit.
Until next time, my friend, have a wonderful day!
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