Hi, Sweet Tea friends. It’s great to be back! While I will typically talk about home decor, I want to talk about something a little different today, because ultimately, the true measure of a successful home life boils down to this one thing…
A while back, Mr. Hines and I had a little date on the front porch.
We rocked and talked, I did most of the talking, and as we sat and rocked and visited, we discussed plans and shared hopes, and I talked about how Grey’s Anatomy reminded me that life is meant to be lived to the fullest; that the only way to truly live is to accept all of it…the beautiful and the messy, and walk through it, allowing yourself to fully engage it and feel it.
Even, maybe especially, the hard parts.
I told Mr. Hines that when death do us part, I hope that we would have loved so deeply and given ourselves so fully that we can’t imagine life without the other. That we grieve hard.
Wanting that is new for me.
My usual way is to hide and protect myself. To build walls and keep people and certain feelings at arms length so that I don’t get hurt. That is a normal, human response…understandably so, but it’s also a lonely way to live since we’re created to be in community.
I told Mr. Hines that that is what I love about Grey’s Anatomy. These people live life together. They allow themselves to be vulnerable.
Vunerability. That’s what it comes down to. Here’s what I’ve learned about vulnerability…
We think we have created a clever disguise with the walls we build around us: the put-together facades, weight, sarcasm, humor, makeup, intellect, busyness, perfection…but the truth is that those walls are our tells. People see them for what they are, and us for who we are, faults and all.
Turns out that it’s the walls (not the people and not our flaws) that betray us, giving away our cover. Most of them love us anyway. They remain our friends. They stick around and they want to be a part of our lives.
Intimacy is very vulnerable place to be and our natural reaction is to cover ourselves, but if you are a Christian, the only wall you need is the Mighty Fortress of our God. And the only safe place to hide is in Him through His word.
I can tell you from (very recent) experience, that opening yourself up to His love gives you the freedom to open up to other’s love…your spouse, your children, friends and family. And that a house really isn’t a home without love.
Wishing you a love-filled home,