As my kids get older, I realize more and more that they are actual little people all on their own. They have their own thoughts and feeling and emotions. And just like you need to learn how to interact with your spouse and your coworkers, you need to learn how to interact with your children in a way that benefits everyone too. You can do that by learning your child’s love language.
If you have heard of love languages before, it’s probably in regards to men and women’s romantic relationships. BUT there is another book about kid’s love languages. I have learned SO much about my kids and myself from this book.
It’s called The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret To Loving Children Effectively by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell. It’s actually part of a series of “Love Languages” books – because I guess he hit on a winning idea and wanted to keep it going.
Your Child’s Love Language
But I really love this book about loving your children because kids don’t come with manuals. I’ve said it before and I will say it again – every kid is different. There is no one-size-fits-all parenting guide that will tell you everything you need to know. And this book teaches you how to love your child so that they know they are loved.
Not how you want to love your child. How they need you to love them.
Heavy stuff. It’s the kind of stuff that keeps me awake at night.
What are the 5 love languages?
1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
3. Quality Time
5. Acts of Service
How can you tell?
The book goes into some ways to determine what your child’s love language is. But it is also quick to point out that your child may have a “primary” love language, while still benefiting from all five. I can easily tell that one of my daughters primary love language is physical touch. But I’m not so sure with my youngest. I think that as they get older, it might be easier to tell.
Why is it important to learn your child’s primary love language?
As parent’s, we want our kid’s to know we love them. Sometimes that means more than just saying “I love you.” We also need to understand how our actions also speak our love to our children.
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